The invisible bubbles in friendship :)

One interesting aspect of friendship is finding 'the friend' with whom you could tell everything about you, and do things together, literally save each other's skin day in and day out. In the thrill of co-dependency, we often forget to give the personal space for each other which realistically ends up as chaos someday. Starting with a simple question, how do you tell no?

Do you rant out personal attacks on social media stories? Or do you just ghost them? First off, what are boundaries? The common misconception about boundaries is that boundaries are building walls around you. Albeit the fact that there are doors in those walls which only you can give access to. Boundaries are meant not to punish people for their errs but for protecting your peace.

Another question which we struggle with is when to say no? the answer is as simple as WHENEVER YOU FEEL LIKE IT. It's easier to recognize when you get a hang of things that makes you feel uncomfortable. where are boundaries needed? Boundaries can be made on physical, emotional, materialistic, intellectual and time. Still worrying about how to say no?

Here are few examples which might come in handy, thank us later.

"Things have been so busy lately, I need to have some me-time. But I’ll let you know when I’m feeling back on track?” , “It’s okay for you to disagree with me, but it’s not okay to put me down.” or you could always use your favorite series reference "Joey doesn't share fooooooddd".

In short, you matter and nothing else matters more than your mental peace. So ask away your boundaries, and always remember, people who are mad at your boundaries are the ones who benefited from you having none.